Ah, just to be clear, this person isn't trying to keep me stateside. In fact, they're very encouraging about going out and following my own individual dreams, especially if we can't be physically together for awhile. I'm very lucky to have them. The lib was more my personal moment of clarity where I realized that if my dearest love was going to be hundreds of miles away anyway, there was no reason for me to stay in the Midwest and feel sorry for myself. The world is so much bigger than that.
But thank you for your advice. I was in this same situation once before with a person who tried their hardest to manipulate me into staying and it eventually broke us up. I've been there. This time will be different.