Hello Goda,
I was staying at my friend's new house this weekend where she lives with her boyfriend. I love her very much; she's been my friend for a very long time, and I'm planning on moving in with them at some point this year to go to school.
Here's the thing, though. When I told her I was a lesbian, she told me in turn that she was bisexual. A few months later, she asked if I would be okay experimenting with her since neither of us have had any real lesbian experiences. I told her no as gently as I could; I am not attracted to her at all whatsoever, and she has a boyfriend. I am morally not okay with any kind of polygamy at all, even though she is. She knew that, but she asked anyway. I said no, and she understood and dropped it until this weekend. (At least, I thought she understood.) When I visited, both she and her boyfriend hit on me rather shamelessly. Now, I don't mind being told I'm cute, but when it gets to the point where they start implying future make-out sessions, I start to get really uncomfortable. I was sort of paralyzed, so I couldn't say anything to stop them.
I love this girl a lot, and her boyfriend is pretty awesome too. But I really, really don't want to get involved sexually with her. How can I tell her this without sounding mean? |